...forgiving Is Not Having To

Self Control Is About Being In Charge Of The Direction Our Lives Are Taking. Now For The Paradox: We Get Control Of Our Lives, Ultimately, Not By Will Power But By Surrender.

Waiting Is The Hardest Work Of Hope.

Forgiving Is Tough. Excusing Is Easy. What A Mistake It Is To Confuse Forgiving With Being Mushy, Soft, Gutless, And Oh, So Understanding. Before We Forgive, We Stiffen Our Spine And We Hold A Person Accountable. And Only Then, In Tough-minded Judgment, Can We Do The Outrageously Impossible Thing: We Can Forgive.

Not Even God Can Make Something Fair Out Of What Is Intrinsically Unfair. Only One Thing Can Be Done. Something Must Break Through The Crust Of Unfairness And Create A Chance For A New Fairness. Only Forgiveness Can Make The Breakthrough.

The Problem With Revenge Is That It Never Gets What It Wants; It Never Evens The Score. Fairness Never Comes. The Chain Reaction Set Off By Every Act Of Vengeance Always Takes Its Unhindered Course. It Ties Both The Injured And The Injurer To An Escalator Of Pain...why Do Family Feuds Go On And On?...the Reason Is Simple: No Two People, No Two Families, Ever Weigh Pain On The Same Scale.