I Know From My Own

What I Tell Everyone, And I Really Do For Myself Is, I Have A Long-run Dream, Which Is I Want To Work On Stuff That I Think Matters.

After My Husband, Dave, Died, I Called My Friend Adam, A Psychologist Who Studies How People Find Meaning In Our Lives, And I Asked Him What, If Anything, I Could Do To Help Myself And My Kids Get Through This. We Started Talking About Resilience, Then Reading About It, Then Talking To Other People Who Had Gotten Through Grief And Other Huge Challenges. In Time, Those Conversations And That Research Helped Me Heal.

When Looking For A Life Partner, My Advice To Women Is Date All Of Them: The Bad Boys, The Cool Boys, The Commitment-phobic Boys, The Crazy Boys. But Do Not Marry Them. The Things That Make The Bad Boys Sexy Do Not Make Them Good Husbands. When It Comes Time To Settle Down, Find Someone Who Wants An Equal Partner. Someone Who Thinks Women Should Be Smart, Opinionated And Ambitious. Someone Who Values Fairness And Expects Or, Even Better, Wants To Do His Share In The Home. These Men Exist And, Trust Me, Over Time, Nothing Is Sexier.

Everyone Needs To Get More Comfortable With Female Leaders-including Female Leaders Themselves.

I Don't Hold Myself Out As A Role Model. I Don't Believe That Everyone Should Make The Same Choices; That Everyone Has To Want To Be A Ceo, Or Everyone Should Want To Be A Work-at-home Mother. I Want Everyone To Be Able To Choose. But I Want Us To Be Able To Choose Unencumbered By Gender Choosing For Us.