I Want To Accept Myself

Pain Is Not Wrong. Reacting To Pain As Wrong Initiates The Trance Of Unworthiness. The Moment We Believe Something Is Wrong, Our World Shrinks And We Lose Ourselves In The Effort To Combat The Pain.

I Sometimes Call This Our "spacesuit Self" Because We Come Into An Environment That Is Difficult And Challenging, Where We're Told To Be Different. We're Told To Jump Over Hoops To Be Loved And Appreciated, So We Have To Develop Spacesuit Strategies To Get Approval And Create Ways To Avoid Being Judged.

Sometimes The Easiest Way To Appreciate Ourselves Is By Looking Through The Eyes Of Someone Who Loves Us.

We Want To Be In Open, Loving Communion With Each Other And Our Greatest Fear Is Intimacy. That It Won't Work And We'll Be Rejected.

As I Noticed Feelings And Thoughts Appear And Disappear, It Became Increasingly Clear That They Were Just Coming And Going On Their Own. . . . There Was No Sense Of A Self Owning Them.