Today I Should Not Be

We Produce Destructive People By The Way We Are Treating Them In Childhood.

The Free Expression Of Resentment Against One's Parents Represents A Great Opportunity. It Provides Access To One's True Self, Reactivates Numbed Feelings, Opens The Way For Mourning And - With Luck - Reconciliation.

An Unacknowledged Trauma Is Like A Wound That Never Heals Over And May Start To Bleed Again At Any Time.

Every Child Has A Legitimate Narcissistic Need To Be Noticed, Understood, Taken Seriously, And Respected By His Mother. In The First Weeks And Months Of Life He Needs To Have The Mother At His Disposal, Must Be Able To Use Her And To Be Mirrored By Her.

That Probably Greatest Of Narcissistic Wounds -- Not To Have Been Loved Just As One Truly Was -- Cannot Heal Without The Work Of Mourning.