Relax, You're On A Journey

Boundaries Emerge From Deep Within. They Are Connected To Letting Go Of Guilt And Shame, And To Changing Our Beliefs About What We Deserve. As Our Thinking About This Becomes Clearer, So Will Our Boundaries. Boundaries Are Also Connected To A Higher Timing Than Our Own. We’ll Set A Limit When We’re Ready, And Not A Moment Before. So Will Others. There’s Something Magical About Reaching That Point Of Becoming Ready To Set A Limit. We Know We Mean What We Say; Others Take Us Seriously Too. Things Change, Not Because We’re Controlling Others, But Because We’ve Changed.

Codependents Are Reactionaries. They Overreact. They Under-react. But Rarely Do They Act. They React To The Problems, Pains, Lives, And Behaviors Of Others. They React To Their Own Problems, Pains, And Behaviors.

It's Hard To Give Up The Self-esteem Connected To Being Codependent And Appearing 'right,' Which Is Probably A Survival Behavior Learned From Growing Up In A Crazy Family. It Feels Like You Will Actually Disappear.

Perspective Will Come In Retrospect.

Sometimes, We Don't Get What We Want. . . But This Is A Benevolent Universe. And Once In A While, We Do.